Surrogacy in Canada: What You Need to Know
By: Katie Paquin
Becoming a surrogate is an exciting and deeply meaningful experience. With preparation, support, and awareness, many surrogates complete their journey feeling fulfilled and proud of what they’ve accomplished — even when things don’t unfold exactly as expected. Still, there are parts of the process that can catch first-time surrogates by surprise.
1. Pregnancy Loss and Failed Transfers Are Common
While some journeys are successful after the first transfer, many are not. Failed transfers and pregnancy loss can happen even when everything looks perfect on paper. It’s important to know that these experiences are a normal part of the process and not a reflection of anything you did wrong.
Emotional resilience and a strong support system can make all the difference. Taking time to rest, regroup, or even pause before trying again is perfectly okay. Surrogacy is not a race — it’s a journey that requires patience, care, and compassion for yourself.
2. Relationships Between Surrogates and Intended Parents Can Be Challenging
Healthy, trusting relationships between surrogates and intended parents are one of the most rewarding parts of a journey. Matching based on shared values, clear communication, and mutual respect helps build a strong foundation.
Even with the best intentions, challenges can arise. Sometimes, communication styles differ or expectations shift as the journey progresses. Both sides are navigating something incredibly emotional and personal. When handled with honesty, empathy, and understanding, even difficult moments can lead to growth and deeper connection.
At Her Helping Habit, we believe every relationship should be rooted in transparency, respect, and compassion — values that help guide both surrogates and intended parents toward a positive experience.
3. There Are Always Risks with Pregnancy
Pregnancy — whether personal or surrogate — comes with risk. While studies show that surrogate pregnancies carry similar risks to non-surrogate pregnancies, it’s important to approach the journey with awareness and preparation.
Before beginning, every surrogate receives independent legal representation to ensure they are fully protected. Contracts should outline coverage for all potential outcomes, from medical complications to time off work. Going into this stage with a clear understanding of your rights and safety ensures peace of mind for both you and your family.
4. Everyone Reacts Differently to Medications
Fertility medications like Estradiol and Progesterone are used to prepare the body for embryo transfer, but everyone responds differently. Some surrogates experience few side effects, while others may notice symptoms such as bloating, nausea, fatigue, or headaches.
Remember — you have full autonomy over your body. Always feel empowered to ask questions, share concerns, and explore alternatives with your nurse or fertility doctor. Your comfort and health matter every step of the way.
5. Use Your Community
One of the most meaningful parts of being a surrogate in Canada is the community. Whether through online spaces or local connections, having other surrogates to talk to can make a world of difference.
The surrogacy community is full of women who understand what you’re going through — from the excitement of your first embryo transfer to the emotional ups and downs that follow. Finding “your people” provides support, encouragement, and friendship throughout the journey.
At Her Helping Habit, we’re proud to be part of this village of compassionate and supportive women who lift one another up and celebrate every milestone along the way.
Bio
Katie Paquin is a Social Worker, Therapist and Fertility Consultant on a mission to help anyone who is dealing with infertility. She guides individuals suffering or feeling helpless through their unique, personal process to fulfull their dreams of parenthood or self acceptance.
Book a free consultation and learn how Katie and her team can guide you on your own fertility journey!